| One of the lowest points in my life was when I felt utterly alone and whatever I tried didn’t help.
This loneliness and sadness was eventually compounded by a rage that I felt vibrating inside my body. This feeling was so strong that I felt as if those sensations were going to explode through my skin. I had no idea what was going on and I had no way of understanding what I was feeling or why. Even worse, I had no framework from which to talk about it. I remember this part of my life when clients share with me that they feel alone and disconnected. I know that feeling all too well. So, I understand when they say they feel disconnected with themselves, with their loved ones, with their spirit, with their bodies. Seeking to heal this feeling before my behaviors became more self-destructive is what started me on my spiritual and healing journey. I have learned that this disconnection gets translated into our physical experience as low energy, constant worry and many times develops into full-blown depression or anxiety. Other times this disconnection leads to addictive behavior, like overeating or nail-biting, hair pulling, or more serious behaviors. The truth is we are never truly disconnected even when we feel we are. But this feeling is so strong that we believe it is real. I want to share 3 ways that helped me and can help you start to shift this feeling of being disconnected. Even though these seem simple, each of these is a way to communicate with spirit and to begin to consciously create that feeling of being connected. TALK IT OUT The first tip I want to share with you is to start communicating with your sense of the Divine Spirit even when it feels like there is no one listening. The world is brimming with life around you. Start talking to something that cannot talk back. You can choose a plant or can choose a pet to talk to. Or put on your headset and imagine you are talking to a friend. I started by getting a dog. The important detail is to see that plant, pet, or friend as a representation of spirit. When you are talking to them, you are talking to spirit. They won’t necessarily talk back but be open to the way that Spirit will start communicating with you. It may be through messages and synchronicities out in the world. BREATHE The second way I recommend is to do breathwork. Countless studies show that slowing down our breathing, being intentional about lengthening the breath in and out helps to relax our bodies. To me, though, breathwork can be used to communicate with the Divine. Imagine that the air you are breathing is spirit energy because it is. Spirit is in everything. Breath intentionally through your nose, a long deep breath into your belly and exhale through your mouth. On the next breath, imagine you ARE breathing in Spirit and it is filling your body. Then follow the breath as you feel Spirit and Divine Love filling and flowing through all the cells of your body. You can do this for as long as you want but doing it, even for 30 seconds to start, will bring you results. GROUND WITH THE EARTH Finally, the third way is to learn how to ground. When we ground to the earth and start moving the earth energies consciously into our body, it is transformational. Even if you don’t feel anything right away, continue doing it, even if for only one minute a day. Imagine, or just think about if you find it hard to visualize, the different layers connecting you to the earth like a chain link. From your skin, then your clothes or shoes, then the chair, then the floor, then the foundation, then the ground, then the ground with roots, then the bedrock, etc. all the way to the center of the earth. Then bring your imagination back up the chain links. I love grounding and breathwork because they can be done anywhere. I can be sitting at my desk at work or waiting for my coffee to finish brewing, or in bed getting ready to sleep. And these two practices don’t require that I be alone or have a lot of time. *** Even though you may be thinking that breathwork and grounding are not communication methods, I want to argue that they are the MOST fundamental of communication methods. What is communication but an opportunity to connect with someone — to connect with them and give them an opportunity to connect with us. The truth is we are ALWAYS connected to Spirit and the Divine. These simple practices help us have a form of communication that we can process through our bodies, via breath and visualization. By processing these physically and mentally, we can start to shift what we are thinking and how we are feeling because our feelings COME THROUGH our bodies. I encourage you to try these out and I would love to hear about your experiences with them. |
